Not sure Not sure who has the better perspective but being a man I prefer to hear what the ladies have to say about it.

lets hear it Yes, I definetly enjoy what the ladies have to say. Of course their orgasms are much more detailed than a man's and so much more interesting.

I write from my own perspective, because that's the most natural and honest; it's what I know. When I read, I also prefer to hear it from his perspective. I don't actually enjoy much erotica from 2nd person--if someone writes "You start moaning..." I feel a little resistance in me and I think, "How would you know what I start doing?" And yes, I get that some reactions are entirely predictable. But still, I prefer having him tell me what he does, and my mind (or my writing) can fill in my part. I have a better grasp on what my own orgasm feels like, as I assume others do for themselves. I don't know if there's an overall gender preference in writing about orgasms in general; I've never really thought about it. It probably depends more on one's skill as a thinker, observer, and writer than whether one is male or female.

first person rules That's where I get stumped. I've seen plenty and can describe it well, but I'm not a mind reader and can't fathom what's going on in her head.

I agree ...about the skills of the writer. I think both men and women can very accuratley write of both genders, and AS both genders. James Joyce did it, Henry Miller did it ( as did Anais Nin very effectively), even Hemingway in some way did it. Erica Jong too. I also agree I don't like the "YOU start moaning when I do this, then I do this" narration style, because it is far too presumptuious. It assumes the giving party knows exactly what the receiving party wants, sometimes even better than the reciever themself. (I don't know if that's clear, or even gramamtical, but I think you get my message.) I've had email, phone and realtime encounters where the "next step" is something that throws cold water on the whole affair. I find the best and most intense phone/writing encounters involve questions and answers.....this way, the "writing" or better, the "constructing" of the episode is mutually contributive.

Q & A is nice, and I also like the other party to simply narrate what he does, or would like to do. The most I want presumed about me is something like "If you struggle, then I'll ... " or something along those lines. A nice detailed description of what someone is doing to me, especially a nice thoughtful build-up and scene setting, can be unbelievably hot.

2nd encounter? You're fast! ;)

Ha ha....I meant assuming there WAS one ...and the first oen didn't sent her screaming into the night......

Or sent her screaming in a good way. ;) Writing is very personal to me (a writer by profession, though of a very different type), so I tend to save that kind of thing for someone I know well. But with the right person, it's quite nice.

Yes, exactly Anonymity is very arousing, there's no two ways around it.......

I write what I'm doing... But I generally like to be instructed on what to do... Him: You should slowly rub small circles aroudn your clit for x seconds... then use x fingers to etc. Me: Am rubbing small circles around my clit with one finger... by the end of x seconds I am squirming and moving my hips to the rhythm. Once I began to use to fingers to slowly... And so on and so forth... I do so love to play via email. Especially since I email from work and you can't use crass language or it'll bounce back into our filters. It makes it really fun.