question... Is performing oral sex on your partner seen as a submissive act? I ask, because in recent experience, a person I was with who is, in my mind, purely dominant never performed it on me, while the recent switch I played very hard with, did. It was never important enough to address it with my first playmate... but the more I think about it, the more I wonder. Could be, it is simply a matter of preference, and every person, regardless of orientation (dom, sub, switch, in this case) has a different opinion.

i think it depends on the context its given in like if you tell the person 'get on your knees and make me cum' thats a sub context.

I get that... but I guess part of me wonders if there is ever a context, say during a scene, in which a Dominant would perform oral on the sub/bottom.

i guess if thats what they chose to do its depends on what goes thru the doms head.

head games

pardon me?

head games men fuck with your head and think with their dick... you'll never know whats really going on in someone elses head but if they're turned on then you'll figure it out. mostly. its all head games. whether or not oral is part of the play or a sub act.

not all guys are like that

I don't believe it is inherently submissive Though as spr points out, it can be. I do think that some folks who themselves dominant think that way about it, but I personally think that's a cop-out, and rather BS. I don't know about you, but I certainly feel like I have an awful lot of control when his cock is in my mouth!

haha yep

Trust me.... We guys feel the same way as we suck and flick that clittie of our SO!!!

I don't doubt that one bit A talented tongue certainly has a lot of control over me too

ohhhhh realllllly???

Do you disagree? Why the skepticism?

sweety i was joking with you about the last part of your post.

Sorry, post looked a lot snarkier than I meant!

Yes you did! ;)

how else would i have gotten you to buy me all that stuff??